I need you to know that any and every quality I’ve ever liked in anyone else, is exactly what I love about you. That’s why they refer to your true love as your dream person. Not necessarily because everything is always dreamy and carefree, but because you can’t believe one person could possess so many amazing qualities. So just know, when you see me talking or laughing with someone else, when it seems like work is coming before our relationship, when I need time and space to work on myself, it doesn’t take away from how I feel about you. I don’t want you to be jealous because you should know that what we have is something so rare, that I promise I will never find it in something as fleeting or unstable as a job or another person.
It’s been said before, but it’s an important lesson to learn – we don’t see the world as it is, we see the world as we are. If it ever feels like you are not important to me, that the two of us is somehow no longer important to me, you need to know that it’s an illusion. Life is going to present us both with a ton of challenges and frustrations but at the end of the day, I will never forget who it is that makes all of those easier. Knowing that I have you of all people to stand by me when things get rocky, is enough to keep me from ever looking anywhere else.
Although, sometimes jealousy is inevitable. It’s a warning sign that something else is wrong. Maybe I’m not doing everything I can to make you feel loved or appreciated. I promise in those moments to try harder. I promise to remember that it’s not all about me and not to get blindsided by the petty things of the everyday. I promise to remember that it is you that matters. It’s you, and me, and it’s us. The ones before you felt relief when something else in my life seemed to matter more to me – it made it easier for them to sneak out the door. So, I don’t mind your jealousy, but I want you to know that you never have any reason to feel that way. But I won’t lie, it feels pretty good to be the one that someone is scared to lose.
Can’t you feel how rare what we have between us is? Can’t you feel how strong and unique and genuine it is? The only thing we need to preserve it is to keep caring about preserving it. No one and nothing can take this away from us except us. But I know that that won’t happen because I promise to love you harder on the days where you feel like you took second place. I don’t ever want you to be jealous, I just want to know that you care too.